“Kamal will not rest until changes are made to stop domestic violence… period. She will enlighten you and boldly bring reality to the topic of abuse. As you listen to her journey of domestic violence, healing and forgiveness, you will be challenged and inspired to stand with her and cheer her onwards ”
I have known Kamal Dhillon for about two years. She first came to my attention when I read her book “Black and Blue Sari”. I was incredibly moved by this book and wanted to meet the person who wrote it. I did meet her and in our discussions, came to discover that we shared a mutual goal of wanting to eliminate intimate partner violence. At the time, I was already working for my current employer and part of my role was to teach a program intended to reduce partner violence to probation and correctional officers in training. I asked Kamal to attend and not only was she received with open arms, students also commented how valuable it was for them to have her tell her story.
Kamal was one of the recipients of the 2012 Courage to Come Back Awards. They were presented by Coast Mental Health to six outstanding people who had overcome great obstacles only to give back to their communities. Their inspiring comebacks were celebrated at a gala dinner held at the Vancouver Trade and Convention Centre.
After a marriage into an influential and wealthy family, Kamal finds herself captivated by his looks and pleasant nature. The young bride tries to adapt not only into a new family but a new set of rules. In spite of his heavy drinking and extreme rage, she continues living with him fearing more for her family’s lives than her own.
But nothing, not even the wealth and the charm could disguise the horror of his nature. For Kamal, there was nothing more horrific than the continual fury of her husband and the constant threats upon her life. She looked death in the face and lived to tell. This is the story of the painful scars in her marriage, hidden under a black and blue sari.
Being a survivor requires great courage. I am revealing my story but I refuse to be defined by the history of violence I left behind. I don’t know what lays ahead, but I have made a decision to never silence myself. I’m more than just a Survivor – I’m a Thriver!
“The lotus flower thrives in muddy water.”
Despite the impurities the lotus blooms above the surface with remarkable beauty. The abuse I went through isn’t my identity.
Like a beautiful lotus, I have risen above all the impure actions and thoughts in my life to bloom anew.
I am Kamal.
The “Black and Blue” Charitable Foundation uses money raised and donated to further Kamal’s passion to educate, because in education we can help bring violence to an end. Kamal spends most of her days helping victims; so much of her work she does on her own. Your donation makes a big impact on lives that might otherwise have lost hope. The Foundation issues tax receipts for donations. Let the colours black and blue no longer mean the bruises of defeat but rather the serenity, peace, and freedom from fear. Your donation will change lives.Learn More